Abstract
This study was conducted to evaluate the effectiveness of the Hold Me Tight® (HMT) program in addressing relationship difficulties associated with gaslighting and triangulation among Pakistani families. The intervention was based on Emotionally Focused Therapy (EFT; Johnson, 2019). It was culturally adapted through the integration of Islamic teachings and Shariah compliant mediation principles. This was done to enhance its relevance, acceptability, and applicability within the Pakistani sociocultural context.
Two parallel randomized controlled evaluations were conducted using independent samples. Study 1 examined married couples (N = 100 individuals, 50 dyads). Study 2 examined triangulation among adolescents (N = 300). In both studies, participants were randomly assigned to an experimental or control condition. The experimental condition received two 2 hour workshops delivering the Islamically integrated HMT Seven Conversations protocol for couples, or its adolescent and family adaptation, Hold Me Tight–Let Me Go® (HMT LMG). The control condition received two 2 hour general psychoeducational workshops, matched in contact time but without the HMT protocol or Islamic integration content. Equating the two conditions on session number and duration helped isolate the active therapeutic components of the HMT protocol from the non specific benefits of therapeutic attention and social contact (Kazdin, 2017; Shadish, Cook, & Campbell, 2002).
In the couples sample, a cross sectional dyadic Actor Partner Interdependence Mediation Model (APIMeM; N = 50 dyads) showed that both husbands' and wives' couple satisfaction significantly and positively predicted their own emotional intimacy (husbands, β = .75, p < .001; wives, β = .72, p < .001). Gaslighting did not significantly mediate this relationship for either partner. After the intervention, the experimental group (n = 50) showed significant improvements across all variables: couple satisfaction (M = 59.60 to 66.84, t(49) = 5.55, p < .001), emotional intimacy (M = 53.92 to 60.74, t(49) = 6.36, p < .001), and gaslighting (M = 66.74 to 23.04, t(49) = 10.07, p < .001). The control group (n = 50) showed no significant change on any variable (all p > .15). At post test, the experimental group scored significantly higher than the control group on all variables (all p < .001).
In the adolescent sample, triangulation was significantly and negatively associated with parental bonding, r(298) = .13, p = .026, and self esteem, r(298) = .15, p = .007. Parental bonding did not significantly mediate the relationship between triangulation and self esteem (indirect effect = .012, 95% CI [.026, .001]). After the intervention, the experimental group (n = 150) showed significant reductions in triangulation (M = 77.05 to 66.91, t(149) = 19.68, p < .001), and significant increases in parental bonding (M = 77.72 to 82.56, t(149) = 16.15, p < .001) and self esteem (M = 21.70 to 26.69, t(149) = 20.12, p < .001), with large effect sizes throughout (d = 1.32 to 1.64). The control group (n = 150) showed no meaningful change on any variable (all absolute d values ≤ 0.29). Groups were statistically equivalent at baseline (all p ≥ .125). At post test, the experimental group scored significantly better than the control group on triangulation and self esteem (both p < .001). Parental bonding did not differ significantly between groups at that time point.
Together, these findings provide controlled, Pakistan specific evidence that a culturally and Islamically integrated Hold Me Tight® program improves relational and psychological outcomes for both married couples and adolescents beyond the effect of general psychoeducation alone. These results support the central premise that Islamic integrated, EFT based psychoeducation is both an effective and a culturally acceptable intervention for Pakistani families.
Keywords: Hold Me Tight, Emotionally Focused Therapy, Islamic-integrated intervention, randomized controlled evaluation, couple satisfaction, gaslighting, emotional intimacy, triangulation, parental bonding, self-esteem, actor–partner interdependence model